Failure - dont shame yourself

Failure. We consciously avoid failing at all costs. Think of the shame it will bring. The dishonor.

After all, no one was feted on the streets for losing a cricket match to your long time rival.

But do you realize you set yourself up if you try to live like this? We will all fail, more often than not. It is only human to do so. The problem is not failing. It is what you do after you fail that matters.

Allow me to use a mindset of failure in the context of health.

I firmly believe that everyone wishes to be healthy. Your personal goals could be modest. You could wish to be the fittest person on earth. Everyone desires good health.

Yet so many of us do not manage to get there. We fail.

In my humble opinion, failing is not the problem. How we respond to failure is.

We seek friends and family who will console us. Tell us it is fine. You tried. But consolation is the wrong sentiment, unless it is brief. Very brief.

It has to be followed by a very strong desire to brush away the failure and start again. If anyone is spending hours consoling you, walk away. It is the wrong advice. 

We seek people who will divert our attention from our failures. You know, it really isn’t that bad. You will be fine. Walk away immediately, it is the wrong advice. 

We seek affirmation for our wanting to give up. I have already tried and failed. Let me live with that shame, instead of creating new opportunities to be humiliated.

What should we do instead? 

If your health really matters, sit down in peace. Reflect on why you failed. What went wrong in your process? In your approach. What was your mindset? Your psychology?

How can you ensure that it does not repeat ever again?

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